Let’s Talk About: WORTHINESS

Can we just pause and talk about WORTHINESS for a second? In a world that shouts from every angle, ‘Buy this! This will make you feel worthy and beautiful!’ or ‘Look this way and at last, you will have worth!’ it’s oh-so easy to get caught up in the compare snare that leaves your worth-tank on Empty.

I will confess, I often struggle with this issue. As a fashion blogger I’m always finding inspiration from the gagillions of other bloggers out there…but sometimes it doesn’t stop at inspiration. It slowly turns into a pity-session, compare game, and self-defeating questions creep in. Am I ‘good enough’ to be a blogger? What if my style isn’t consistent? What if my hair doesn’t look good today? What if my photos are just… off (I mean let’s face it…I’m NOT a model)? What if I thrift all my clothes so I will never be really relevant? Will I ever be as good as HER?

All of these questions eat away at my worth. They consume my mind and thus my time with fruitless negative thoughts. In 1 Peter 3:3-4 it says, ‘Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear  but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.’

Y’all, God cares about the HEART. Your heart, my heart. How is your heart today? Am I spending time adorning my insides with the IMPERISHABLE beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit? I’d say all my previous questions are like clanging loud symbols in my mind that are distracting me from what is truly important.  I long to spend more time with my Savior and reflecting on the state of my heart than I do adorning my body with clothing and makeup. Those things are a blast and I enjoy them immensely! But I want my insides to be just as (or MORE) beautiful than my outsides. I want to care about what God says is ‘VERY precious’.

Do you bloggers struggle with this? How do you combat the ‘compare snare’ that fights to steal your worthiness?

13 Responses to “Let’s Talk About: WORTHINESS”

  1. Chelsea says:

    Thanks for this Star. I’ve been feeling this way a lot lately, and as a result my blog has gone update-less. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. Thanks for the little bit of inspiration, it may be just what the doctor ordered :)

    • star says:

      You are so welcom, Chelsea. It’s definitely a daily battle of surrender and ‘heart check’ for me to keep my focus on the things that truly matter! I’m really glad you stopped by and I hope you know you are loved and worthy in our Father’s eyes! Blessings!

  2. lalili says:

    Love this! I feel the same way sometimes. Thanks for sharing xoLili

  3. Meredith says:

    Star I definitely struggle with this. Being a fashion blogger, it’s so difficult not to compare. It’s also hard not to go out and buy the latest and greatest because I see it on all the bloggers. But when these thoughts start to creep in, I remind myself that I am found in Christ and that is all that matters. Not what I wear, not the success of my blog, but my heart for Him. He is in control of all of the other things, and I just rest and give them to Him. It’s key to put things in perspective, with God at the top of the list.
    Meredith
    createthatoutfit.com

  4. Lauren says:

    Hi Star, this is a great post. When I first started blogging, my boyfriend noticed that I was more self conscious than usual, and I realized it was because I was comparing myself to some of the bloggers that always have amazing photos etc. I know occasionally I still compare, but I’m trying to not. Because I believe when you’re truly confident with who you are, the success will follow. I think it’s important to remind yourself that its better NOT to be like other bloggers – because the blogging world already has that – so your unique thrifting blog is what sets you apart! And trying to be like everyone else will sway readers away. I agree it can be hard not to compare, but I think it requires a conscious effort to stop yourself before it starts. xo

  5. maria says:

    great post Star!!

  6. Lyddiegal says:

    This is definitely something that I think about all the time. It is hard to go through life and not compare yourself to others. It is a struggle to truly believe that my own unique person is ‘worthy’. There is also that constant desire to try and achieve it by material things.

    “if I have this new camera then my photos will look as good as and more people will read my blog.”

    “if this would only work with me I’d know my blog was important”

    “If I only had X many followers…”

    And so on and so on.
    It is a problem, and I do not know the solution.

  7. Lyddiegal says:

    This is definitely something that I think about all the time. It is hard to go through life and not compare yourself to others. It is a struggle to truly believe that my own unique person is ‘worthy’. There is also that constant desire to try and achieve it by material things.

    “if I have this new camera then my photos will look as good as (insert popular blogger) and more people will read my blog.”

    “if this (highly notable brand) would only work with me I’d know my blog was important”

    “If I only had X many followers…”

    And so on and so on.
    It is a problem, and I do not know the solution.

    • star says:

      Thank you so much for your thoughtful response, Lyddie! Material possession, while fun, can only temporarliy satisfy me! I need a life long giver of worth, my Savior Jesus Christ! It’s a daily battle!

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